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- May 2, 2020 at 12:53 pm #5407AnonymousGuest
Is it true that women in China who are no longer a virgin are considered as ‘leftover’ only? Where is gender equality in that?May 2, 2020 at 12:53 pm #5887AnonymousGuest
Is it true that women in China who are no longer a virgin are considered as ‘leftover’ only? Where is gender equality in that?May 2, 2020 at 12:53 pm #5888AnonymousGuest
This applies to women over 30 , virgin or not that are not married .
Gender WHAT ???????
DID you look at your GPS ?
You know you are in China …right ?May 2, 2020 at 12:54 pm #5889AnonymousGuest
Actually the “Leftovers” are the best women in many ways. Just like in the west a woman who has graduated from a good university and has a high paying job does not want to marry a pig farmer. Many Chinese men don’t want to marry a highly educated woman in a better job then he has.
Chinese women no longer want to get married at 18, baby by the time there are 19 and divorced by 27.
As you can tell I married a “leftover” as I was no “spring chicken” myself!
Virginity has nothing to do with the saying, it’s an age issue.May 2, 2020 at 12:55 pm #5890AnonymousGuest
To call a woman “leftover” is 100% insult. The person who invented this word is 100% creep. For a nation to accept this term on women so casually looks to me like a gov scheme ( to pressure women into marriage since the actual problem is too many unmarried men).
Think about it, why would someone pay insult to a woman just because she’s not married? That’s outrageous. Why would you be so angry and full of hatred to a woman who’s not married? YOU would be the one who screams issues.May 2, 2020 at 12:56 pm #5891AnonymousGuest
Some so-called “leftover” women refuse to “marry down” to men who don’t earn as much as themselves or have less education. It’s unclear where the term originated, but it has been perpetuated by state media.May 2, 2020 at 12:56 pm #5892AnonymousGuest
^It must have been purposefully perpetuated. Some brainless followers use this word without thinking for a sec that they are insulting women who never did anything wrong to them. It just proves how easily the masses could be manipulated.May 2, 2020 at 12:57 pm #5893AnonymousGuest
Alright, I stand corrected; I shouldn’t have talked about virginity only. What I mean by gender equality is that if a 35-year-old man can still easily find someone to marry, why should a 35-year-old woman find it difficult to do the same? I am only asking for your honest opinion about this. Thank you.’May 2, 2020 at 12:58 pm #5894AnonymousGuest1 minute ago, AngelinaLu said:
Alright, I stand corrected; I shouldn’t have talked about virginity only. What I mean by gender equality is that if a 35-year-old man can still easily find someone to marry, why should a 35-year-old woman find it difficult to do the same? I am only asking for your honest opinion about this. Thank you.’
There are biological differences. Women are less likely to conceive easily and bear healthy children as they age. This is at least part of the reason for the stigma. (Note: recent research shows that as men age, they are less likely to father healthy children, but this is ignored.)
It’s also generally true that men of all ages find women of prime child-bearing age to be more superficially attractive than those outside the prime 20 to 30 age bracket. Sometimes, you can’t fight biology.
Nevertheless, I fully agree with you. The term “leftover women” is insulting, demeaning, sexist and unjust. There is no more reason for women to be treated as “best before” goods than it is for men to be treated this way.May 2, 2020 at 12:59 pm #5895AnonymousGuest
This time, I am talking about Chinese women vs. Chinese men. I have been reading about this for some time already, and I see that I am not the only one who has noticed this. As an educated Chinese woman myself, I’d feel terrible if I am called a leftover woman in my motherland.May 2, 2020 at 12:59 pm #5896AnonymousGuest
Some Chinese women prefer the more-equal style of relationships shared by western couples. But some don’t. And even if they do, language and cultural expectations are often significant barriers for potential inter-cultural couples. Finding a laowai husband is not a ticket to matrimonial equality and love, just as finding a Chinese bride is not a prescription for a harmonious marriage to an agreeable wife.May 2, 2020 at 1:02 pm #5897AnonymousGuest
You know, I am Chinese too, but I believe that love for each other should be the foundation of a marriage, not the ability of someone to conceive.
If not in China, then maybe in another country. I am married to a Canadian so I know that other Chinese women like me may be able to find that person who will be happy for their successes in their chosen field and love them for who they are.May 2, 2020 at 1:03 pm #5898AnonymousGuest
This is a fine view to have of the world but sometimes reality is different. China is quickly evolving on the marriage front. Look at what the marriage prospects were just 50 years ago to today. From a majority arranged marriages to some hybrid form today and tomorrow looks like women will be taking over the social institution completely as the market forces of supply and demand trump dated and obsolete models.
There are down sides. A lot of money is being locked up by men saving every yuan they can for apartments, cars, and gifts. Housing prices keep skyrocketing taking more money out of the economy each year. The divorce rate is also skyrocketing as women are more empowered and independent and with many more men available they are less inclined to put up with the bull crap men dish out. This will change a lot of things but one other item of caution, love.
Love is a nice concept and makes for great songs, tv shows, movies, and books but in reality its nothing like fiction. Be realistic and build a relationship off of trust and mutual vision/goals. While opposites attract without something else holding them together the potential for disaster is too great. Beyond common interests like movies, food, sense of humor there needs to be similar outlooks and expectations for life. People maybe in hormonal love/lust for a few years but once the kids are older and retirements is around the corner you have to know you will be comfortable talking to and sitting around staring at each other as your looks and ability to do things break down and fade away. You just need to be a little more practical in the approach and realistic in the outcome.
Looking at the US society where this change occurred 40 years ago with the women’s liberation movement you can see where things have led. Women there have much more social mobility and freedoms from before but happiness and life contentment are down. There are a large number of single mothers out there, divorced multiple time women, professionals who never married and seem to not want to, and a growing generation of emasculated men who have no clue of what to do, how to act, or pretty much anything. China could be heading down this road if not careful.May 2, 2020 at 1:10 pm #5899AnonymousGuest
You can insult whoever you want in China as long as you don’t insult the Party. There’s no political correctness regarding social issues in China. People are openly discriminative.
And in terms of leftover women and men, nobody is following nobody. There’s no grand conspiracy, only that people are expected to have a stable life and reproduce at the optimal age.
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