I am in touch with one other who has posted on these forums whose Japanese wife would not even process the papers to get his spouse visa so he could even look for a job here leaving him stuck in a legal limbo back in the US as they were married there. In such a situation the wife has you by the short and curlies, knows you dont speak the language, don’t know the culture and know your way around. You are at the mercy of the elements when all you have is a spouse visa and no other skills. You are looking for a job at a dead time of year and your wife is cheating on you already. Not a good sign (I would also be wary of the fact if you got married in the US, with the vows in English, they dont mean as much to her as if she had spoken them in Japanese in a church ceremony in front of her relatives. Something to think about.