Hi there everyone,
I was just writing this post to see if anyone could share their knowledge of divorce and custody of children in Japan?? My fiance is Japanese and used to be married to a Japanese woman until a few years ago. They had a son whom lives with his mom in Japan while we live in New Zealand. I struggle to understand why in Japan there is no concept of “shared custody”. It cuts me up to see my love miss his son so much yet not allowed to go see him and expected to cut all ties from him even though the break down to the marriage took two to tango.
Furthermore, Im expected not to ask questions about his son. I know both of us are excited about settling down with each other and having kids. Im excited to have his children yet even though we are engaged I still find it hard to accept he has a son, for what reason Im unsure. Jealousy? Envy? I really dont know. If the opportunity arose and my fiances son came to live with us I would love him and take care of him as my own but in the mean time does anyone have any suggestions to get over these difficult feelings? Its not a feeling I have ever felt before. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Can anyone enlighten me with their knowledge of divorce and custody in Japan?