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Stuck in a slightly awkward, very bad situation. Long story short, I am not ready to have a child, and am interested in abortion. Due to the nature of the situation, my criteria for an abortion clinic/hospital that provides abortion pills essentially include (by order of priority):
– affordability
– no-questions-asked, or at least less-questions-asked
– safety
Does anyone know where I can find one of these?
And not to be too blunt about it, but illegality isn’t too huge a concern for me at this point, although the closer I stay to the law the better.
Stuck in a slightly awkward, very bad situation. Long story short, I am not ready to have a child, and am interested in abortion. Due to the nature of the situation, my criteria for an abortion clinic/hospital that provides abortion pills essentially include (by order of priority):
– affordability
– no-questions-asked, or at least less-questions-asked
– safety
Does anyone know where I can find one of these?
And not to be too blunt about it, but illegality isn’t too huge a concern for me at this point, although the closer I stay to the law the better.
Chinese hospitals at such are affordable. But you are foreigner. I would not opt for pills, as they have less good success rate vs. surgical procedure, and somewhat often you still end up on operating table… Surgical procedure is straight forward and you are pretty much “operational” soon afterwards.
Places like Zhen Ai are expensive (surgical procedure), cost is likely +5000 kuai. Local hospital cost for surgical procedure could be somewhere around 1300 kuai.
You will never be ready to have a child — no one ever is…but also no one can imagine the happiness one will get when you hold your child for the very first time. I know I am off topic — just thought it was worth trying to save a life this morning…
Maybe there are alternatives that meet your requirements? There are places that would allow you to have the child and still be “affordable” and definitely safe and allow you to put your child up for adoption. Please make sure you are totally positive about everything before you make any decision…
4 minutes ago, saturn594 said:– no-questions-asked, or at least less-questions-asked
If you want no-questions-asked abortions you came to the right place!
The only question you can expect to be asked is along the lines of “cash, or card?” The docs in Chinese hospitals really don’t care why you are getting an abortion. Be sure to arrive early and bring a book or your PSP. There is often quite a line of women in the waiting room.
his is a tough decision made tougher by the lack of support in this forum. It sounds like you’ve made it, though, and you need some advice and support.
Abortion is legal in China, don’t worry about that.
You’ve probably done some internet searching and are aware that there are “medical” abortions (take some pills) and “surgical” abortions (D&C, using a tool to clean out the inside of your uterus). Both options are available in China.
Before you get an abortion, you will probably get an ultrasound to confirm the fetus in the uterus and how advanced the pregnancy is.
If the ultrasound shows you’re less than 8 weeks pregnant, your best option is to try a medical abortion first (mifepristone/RU 486 and a second drug like misoprostol or gemeprost a few days later) which is about 95% effective. Expect stomach cramps, diarrhea, vomiting, and bleeding. In the West, many clinics ask that women return in 3 days and again in 2 weeks for a recheck. If medical abortion fails, then you can get a surgical abortion.
If you’re more than 8 weeks pregnant, many doctors will still use pills first, though the success rate is lower. A surgical abortion is often performed, and you should talk to the doctor about exactly what’s required, as it depends on how advanced the pregnancy is. It will probably involve some anaesthesia and will definitely involve sticking a tool or a tube into your uterus.
In Shanghai, a medical facility has to be licensed in order to provide an abortion. Probably the best place to go is Red House Hospital/Hong Fangzi Yi Yuan on 566 Fang Xie Lu. This will be much cheaper than expat hospitals (which might not be licensed to do abortions), and if you get a medical abortion, I imagine the price won’t be more than a few hundred RMB–a total guess, though. Also, each district has its own Women’s Health Center, which will be able to help–they’re called Fu Bao’s.
Please consider posting your experience here in a few weeks to help future women in your position make a good decision.
/profile/172-saturn594/?do=hovercard” data-mentionid=”172″ href=”<___base_url___>/profile/172-saturn594/” rel=””>@saturn594 Much support for you to make a difficult decision in a difficult situation.
Because of the one-child policy there are no-ask abortion clinics everywhere.
If you have any Chinese speaking female friends they will most likely be able to point you to a safe one- abortion is unfortunately one of the most used forms of birth control here.
Best luck and take care.
f this person is old enough to have sex then she is also old enough to know about contraception. It doesn’t take a genious to realise if you have sex without precautions then you are taking a risk in getting pregnant.
Of course the ultimate decision is hers and no-one elses but using abortion as an effective form of contraception is wrong, and I am sorry but she sounds so flippant about the whole thing particularly the comment about not worrying about the legality of it.
Perhaps she does not also realise the risks that are taken just by having an abortion? The risk of infection, possible problems with future conception, and not least the psychological effects she will also suffer.
I agree that everybody is entitled to their own opinion and will definitely have them, but the OP didn’t post on a public forum asking for every bodies opinions about her decision/situation, she asked a question about where she can go.
Most women (or maybe girls in the OP’s case) know that it is not an easy decision to make and getting people telling you are a horrible person in the process just makes it harder to deal with.
It is easy to sit back and make judgement on people when you don’t know the full story – how do you know she didn’t use birth control? Nothing is 100% safe – my cousin is living proof of that because the condom obviously broke when her parents were being safe…
/profile/172-saturn594/?do=hovercard” data-mentionid=”172″ href=”<___base_url___>/profile/172-saturn594/” rel=””>@saturn594 some advice, if you choose to go through with the procedure, maybe get tested for STD’s at the same time, just in case you’ve picked something up… and as an abortion is a very difficult decision to make at any age, you might want to look into talking to a professional, as keeping something like that too yourself can eat your up inside!!
Not sure where you would go to have that procedure done, but I would check it out and feel comfortable with the doctor.
Just remember EVERYONE makes mistakes, and it take a big person to ask for help.
4 minutes ago, Georgie said:Perhaps she does not also realise the risks that are taken just by having an abortion? The risk of infection, possible problems with future conception, and not least the psychological effects she will also suffer.
Not true at all. Contrary to false claims on pro-life websites, abortion does not affect your ability to have future children, does not cause breast cancer, and does not lead to long-lasting psychological problems. Abortion is medically much safer than pregnancy and childbirth, and psychologically much safer than dealing with a child you’re not prepared for and don’t want.
On the subject of contraception, the morning after pill is available for cheap and without a prescription at almost all pharmacies in China. Men, consider buying some with your next purchase of condoms because every once in a while **it happens. Women, get some just in case–it might not happen to you, but maybe one of your friends…
Yeah let’s keep off moral issues here. If I were you, I would pay for a western clinic to do it for (1) Peace of mind as to chances of future conception and (2) help remind you to take proper precautions next time.
I would give Parkway a call, as they also provide quality after care services should you need it.
Sure, lets keep off moral issues. Of course, once we have no morals, everything goes. I was not trying to pass judgment, just doing something i considered my moral responsibility — trying to save what i believe to be a life.
Also, what I know about the situation makes little to no difference, as nothing should justify taking a life and nothing gives anyone the right to. Unfortunately, women do have the legal right to do it, but that does not change the fact that they do not have the MORAL right to.
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