I have so many comments about this topic after going thru watching my wife in labor and assisting in the birth, but I get the feeling maybe it would also be dismissed as uninformed opinions as it likely contrasts with the answers you are looking for .
But I agree that it’s about what your wife wants, not what we, as men dictate is best for them. Definitely supplying her with all the information possible about ALL the options would be best. A water birth is supposed to be absolutely amazing for the mom and baby though.
